Archive for November, 2013|Monthly archive page

How I am Going to Keep My Sanity and Still Be an Awesome Santa

In Uncategorized on November 29, 2013 at 8:27 am


Today I was thinking about what I was going to get my family and friends this Christmas. I plan to the bulk of my shopping on the internet this year. It is my goal to purchase cool, unusual, unique yet awesome gifts that I can’t find in the cookie-cutter world of the local mall.

Here’s some places I will go to first and why:


Etsy offers many wonderful and unique gifts from artists, designers and crafters. I never fail to find something awesome here. Maybe a dinosaur planter will be on your list or a BioMech Translucent Porcelain Votive Candle Holder. There are many, many choices in an array of categories. Buying through Etsy is a great way to support small business.


Pinterest is one of the things that can suck up hours of my time without me knowing it has done so until I look up blinking form the bright lights and once again hear the world around me. Do a search for “kids toys” or “handbags” and the choices will be staggering and often unique. Smart retail marketers are using pinterest to push their wares and it is a great source for unique and boutique items. And recipes….lots of recipes.


Home of the Rowboat Salad Bowl, the DJ Cat Scratching Pad and the gorgeous Trinity Wooden Cuff Bracelet (on my list. Shhhh.) Uncommongoods offers gifts for everyone and every taste. Their tagline is “creative living. mindful giving”.


“Naturally Brilliant” toys and gifts for the wee ones. This site is remarkable. It offers fun, bright items that stimulate and teach. I absolutely love this site. How about soft and sweet Organic Fruit Rattles for the baby in your family, the E-Offroader for the older tyke or for your princess maybe a new friend, the Nelly Doll.


Wow. What an amazing site. Not only are there ready-made gifts but you can personalize many of the items. You can create your own Instagram Pillows, pick up a LIttle Man Mustache Pacifier or maybe a Personalized Kindle Case. The ideas and many and your shopping force is strong.

I like taking care of my shopping on the internet because it is less stressful. I make better choices and usually end up with really cool stuff. I would rather take my on the street shopping time and have coffee with friends, visit a great light display with the grandkids and still have time to bake with my daughter. That is what makes my Christmas season joyful.


A few words on privilege…

In Uncategorized on November 28, 2013 at 6:00 pm

Paul Bernal's Blog

I’m a hugely privileged person. Almost all the advantages that can be bestowed upon someone in our society have been bestowed upon me. I was brought up in a family for which money wasn’t really an issue. I lived in a nice place – in leafy, privileged Cambridge – and went to very good schools. State schools, as it happens, but in Cambridge the state schools are remarkably good, and Hills Road Sixth Form College, where I did my A Levels, can compete at an academic level with pretty much all the ‘top’ public schools in the country. I went to Cambridge University. I’m male. I’m white. I’m straight. I’ve always been able to find jobs. I’m married, have a child, have a great job, own a nice home, I’m able-bodied, not suffering from mental health problems and reasonably healthy. I tick almost all the right boxes – and have…

View original post 1,822 more words

Demented mother

In Uncategorized on November 27, 2013 at 1:20 pm

Alzheimer’s disease is such a strange and sad trip. This is beautifully written. I watched my wonderful and creative grandmother struggle with this disease and it has effected me deeply.

COFFEE & a nap

She could find the wrong way to anywhere on her best day.

And worse, everything was jumbled in her head.  Her sentences got stuck, two or three words strung together, punctuated with confused pauses. Her thoughts lurched around drunkenly and slurred into meaningless babble.

Her children, whose names and faces she mismatched when she was still plausibly lucid, seemed only vaguely familiar to her now.

She sometimes knew where she needed to be, but the day of the week, the time of day and the way there was a total fog. Everything around her seemed to be happening out of sequence and without reason.

She could be found many mornings standing naked next to the shower because she knew something, something, something was meant to happen next and if she waited long enough, it would occur.

She dirtied herself often and buried her soiled underwear among her other crumpled belongings…

View original post 170 more words

So You Want to Deep Fry A Turkey? Think Safety First

In News on November 27, 2013 at 9:17 am


I love this ad. Have you had any Thanksgiving mishaps? One year my sister-in-law and I invited a neighbor family to join us for Thanksgiving. The wife accepted and said she would take care of the turkey. My sister-in-law and I made cakes, pies, vegetables. homemade rolls, venison and much more and then here came the neighbor with the turkey. First of all, there was NO chance this turkey was undercooked. I think it had been in the oven since Halloween. Second the stuffing consisted of a whole loaf of bread…yes, I mean a whole loaf, not shredded shoved into the turkey carcass  with an onion that was chopped in large pieces. No seasonings. Nothing else. No kidding.

Needless to say we NEVER asked her to cook anything else but we still invited them to every event over many years because maybe they couldn’t cook but they were wonderful friends.

International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women: PLEASE READ

In Inspiration, News on November 25, 2013 at 8:04 am

Leslie Morgan Steiner: Why domestic violence victims don’t leave

Today is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women. In this post are videos to several TED Talks that address abuse issues that women face internationally. Please share this post and if you have any comments I would like to hear them.

Opening discussions about theses issues is critical. Each story could be you, your sister, your mother, grandmother or friend. Violence has touched many, many women’s lives and they may be the only one who knows about it. Sometimes we need to not only think about the stories that we hear but think about the stories we don’t hear.

Maybe a of the women in the United States that is being sold as a sex slave will find a bar of soap that will tell them where they can get help. Maybe she will find shelter and someone who cares. Maybe not. But if we are not talking about it we are saying that these women are unimportant.

One of the  most heartbreaking poems that I have ever read is by a young man who was abused throughout his childhood, Antwone Fisher. We should all cry for every one of the victims of abuse throughout the world maybe that river if tears will lead to change.

Who will cry for the little boy?
By Antwone Fisher

who will cry for the little boy?
Lost and all alone.
Who will cry for the little boy?
Abandoned without his own?

Who will cry for the little boy?
He cried himself to sleep.
Who will cry for the little boy?
He never had for keeps.

Who will cry for the little boy?
He walked the burning sand
Who will cry for the little boy?
The boy inside the man.

Who will cry for the little boy?
Who knows well hurt and pain
Who will cry for the little boy?
He died again and again.

Who will cry for the little boy?
A good boy he tried to be
Who will cry for the little boy?
Who cries inside of me

Please share this post and if you have any comments I would like to hear them.

Sunitha Krishnan: The fight against sex slavery

TEDxColumbus 2011 – Theresa Flores – Find a Voice with Soap

Jackson Katz: Violence against women—it’s a men’s issue

“I wish for a better life. I wish for food for my children. I wish that sexual abuse and exploitation in schools would stop.’ This is the dream of the African girl.” (Leymah Gbowee)”

Turning Pain Into Power: Javier Espinoza at TEDxOrangeCoastWomen

An anthem for the campaign to end violence against women

America, it’s time to step up. The free market will survive without you for a day.

In News on November 24, 2013 at 8:08 am



America, it’s time to sit back and think about what we are becoming. What values do we teach our kids by becoming ninja shoppers on Black Friday? Are we teaching them that family is important or are we teaching them that “things” are important? I am appalled that Black Friday has moved  earlier into Thanksgiving Day. Instead of hanging out with family, watching football, playing with cousins you rarely see, talking to the elders in your family as everyone swaps stories about their lives and “remember whens” many will be standing in line trying to get the “next big thing” for Christmas. Seriously.

Family. That word carries everything that we are, who we will be and generations of hope and tragedy. What emotional connection can you build at a Wal-Mart Black Friday sale? Will your child learn about your family’s emigration to the US and how your family made its way? Will they learn about your families struggles and triumphs? Will they hear the laughter of thier grandmother as she recounts some silliness their parent did as a child. Is this the last Thanksgiving that you will hear her laughter? Will it occur to you as you stand in line Thanksgiving Day that you are actually wasting a precious commodity. Family love. I hope so. But why not think about it today and don’t go. Instead gather your family and be thankful they are with you and be thankful that you are with them.

America, it’s time to step up. The free market will survive without you for a day and honestly, the store employees should be home with their families. Please share this if you think that family is more important than the “next big thing”. Oh, and stay home Thanksgiving Day.

Related Content:

Thanksgiving Shopping Boycotts: Blowback Against Walmart, Target, Kmart, Macy’s For Earlier Black Friday Deals
By Christopher Zara

Meet the new holiday tradition: Black Friday starts before Thanksgiving now by MARY ELIZABETH WILLIAMS


This Mashup of Chris Farley Starring in a Rob Ford Movie Is Perfect

In Uncategorized on November 23, 2013 at 12:08 pm

Brilliant. The video…not Rob Ford. Actually he’s pathetic.


After Toronto Mayor Rob Ford’s long two weeks of admitting to smoking crack, making oral sex jokes about his wife to the press, and then knocking over an unsuspecting woman during the City Council meeting that stripped him of most of his powers, the late comedian Chris Farley’s brother tweeted what we’d all been thinking:

And thankfully, a Toronto editor and director compiled clips of Chris Farley to be woven into the perfect trailer for a Rob Ford biopic. Complete with crack references and bowling over ladies at press conferences.

View original post

9 Reasons ‘Hookup Culture’ Hurts Boys, Too

In Uncategorized on November 22, 2013 at 9:11 pm

As the mother of a son to other mothers and fathers of sons…Read this.


An entire generation of parents has spent years panicking about the effects of hookup culture on girls. But what about boys? That’s the question Rosalind Wiseman takes on in this week’s issue of TIME. Wiseman may be familiar to you as the author of Queen Bees and Wannabes, her look at the social rivalries of girls (on which Tina Fey based the movie Mean Girls). For her new book, Masterminds and Wingmen, she delves into the world of boys. As the mother of two boys, she was eager to make sure that their side of the story was not left out. During two years of research, she interviewed hundreds of boys across the country — individually, in groups, over the course of extended e-mail correspondences — and their stories are really quite striking.

As Wiseman writes, we assume that boys are the perpetrators and beneficiaries of…

View original post 767 more words

Why I Know That There Is Hope For Our World.

In Inspiration, Uncategorized on November 22, 2013 at 8:57 pm

When I see things like this I know that the world’s potential is limitless. I know that each child that is born holds a well of hope that we can draw from. This is a video of Ward’s first year given to his Mommy on her birthday from his Daddy.

An Evening with Gilbert King Pulitzer Prize Winning Author of Devil In the Grove

In Florida, Inspiration, News, Writing on November 21, 2013 at 8:15 am

Last night I went to a book signing in Mount Dora, Fl. The author of the Pulitzer Prize winning book “Devil in the Grove: Thurgood Marshall, the Groveland Boys and the Dawn of a New America“, Gilbert King spoke about his book, the case and then answered questions from the audience. The Groveland Boy case happened in Lake County where I live and involved four young black men who were accused of raping a young white girl. All four were innocent. The story is quite complicated and very interesting. Thurgood Marshall came to Lake County to represent the young men. As the story progresses two of the young men were being transported from the prison back to a Lake County courtroom for their second trial when the sheriff, Willis V. McCall, shot them on the side of the road. He thought they were both dead but one survived.

Groveland four article

There is so much more to the story than I am going to tell you here so I am going to ask you to read the book. It’s an important story that needs to be told again and again. It was amazing to listen to Mr.King and also some of the audience told their personal stories. There were surviving family members of the Groveland Fou present and  as I waited in line to have my book signed I talked to the man in front of me about the book, race and life, it turns out that he is a descendant of one of the Rosewood families. Rosewood. Fl. was a black settlement in Levy County Florida that was burnt to the ground and the families run off in response to a lynching. In 1997, the movie Rosewood was released.

These stories are important and many times our history is swept under the rug if it is unpleasant and that was done in the case of the Groveland Boys. Most residents of Lake County have never ehard of the case and are not aware that it was not just local news but national and international news. They are not aware that the monies that helped win the case of Brown vs, Brown came from cash the NAACP raised in response to the injustice of the Groveland Boys case. Even many of the surviving family of the Groveland Boys were unaware of details of the case. It was the earlier generations way of protecting them from the sadness and fear.

Please visit Gilbert King’s website for more information and PLEASE READ THE BOOK.

The Devil in the Grove




The Daily Think

Laura Quick's book The Quick Guide To Parenting is available to order on Amazon. A perfect gift for parents.



Little Wolf

Art Blog of Maryanna Hoggatt

Bones Don't Lie

Current News in Mortuary Archaeology and Bioarchaeology

Violent metaphors

Thoughts from the intersection of science, pseudoscience, and conflict.

Ryan Bolton.

Writer. Photographer. Bearded.

The Daily Post

The Art and Craft of Blogging

Post it Notes from my Idiot Boss

delivered directly to my computer monitor on an all too regular basis...

Listful Thinking

Listless: Lacking zest or vivacity


essays, nostalgia, humor, and weirdness

Leadership Freak

Empowering Leaders 300 Words at a Time

Richard Wiseman

Psychologist Author Speaker

%d bloggers like this: